Your secrets to a happy marriage

I can't believe I missed Bubba's comment when I read the "Sound Off" section of that article! I am definitely telling that one to my husband tonight. Well said, Mr. Bubba, well said.

Just like the foundation of the legal system, whether a marriage will work on not is not determined by consensus or popular beliefs. But instead, it's determined by what's functional– what actually works, what actually benefits both parties involved. At present, marriage only benefits the woman. Our feminist legal system has corrupted the original concept of marriage– the union of 2 people– to the point where its become unprofitable in every sense of the word for a man to get married. He's better off just milking the cow than gambling on sharing ownership of his farm with a beast who did nothing to earn it other than show up. Such is the situation today that commonly pulls marriages apart at the proverbial seems for men.

We should be focusing on the issue from a MALE point of view. You have a dedicated "Living" section, yet no comparable voice for men to address their issues with Feminism. And let's be clear here: this is about women hypocritically claiming to be "strong and independent" while simultaneously trying to keep men hostage to the dictates of a traditional era that assigned "gentlemen" the task of caring for "ladies." The problem today is not that women don't demand that guys act like "gentlemen." It's that women REFUSE to act like "ladies" and play their traditional gender roles as they hypocritically expect us to do.

It's a shame that this feminist society only cares about female interests. It's a shame that men today have been so systematically emasculated by the social conditioning of feminism to the extent that they're willing to sacrifice their civil rights just to earn some social validation, the kind offered exclusively to women by this feminist society.

A happy marriage?

Yep, I would have to say mine is pretty happy. I have been married for 14 years. Its been a great run so far, and I look forward to spending many more years with my wonderful wife.

We are High School Sweethearts. We did not get maried out of High School, but waited until I had finished my A/S Degree Program and was at least employable, then I helped pay for her classes and for her degree program. I felt it was my duty to do this for her.

I read this article last night and was not able to make comment. It is very important to Marry your best friend, and that is exactly what my wife is to me. Do we have our squabbles, you bet. But the point is to work through them and come to an equitable solution to both parties.

We both come from broken homes. My parents had a little cheating problem. My dad was the issue in that department. Her parents remained together just for the sake of the kids. I can tell you that is definately not the right answer.

We have some friends who we have maintained contact with over the years. They all got married because of pregnancy. Getting married because its the "responsible" thing to do for the coming kid is completely silly. All of the marriages that happened have lasted no longer than 5 years. All of these couples are now devorced and only two have remarried. That is very sad. In all of the cases, the couples that were together are bitter rivals and only have contact when they must because the courts say they have to.

My wofe and I have chosen to not have children, and have adjusted out retirement portfolios accordingly.

The point is that you don't have to have children to meld the relationship together better. Its up to the two of you to WORK together to get the job done properly.

There are a lot of really good comments here, and one that really needs to be repeated is to always consider the other person over yourself. It is about being a doormat, it's more about not being domineering and bossy. There must be balance and some [days] you carry the weight, other [days] your partner, however, it isn't always 50-50, you just find your own way in what WORKS to keep you together and secure.

((I so meant "It isn't about being a doormat. . ."))

Date for a SERIOUS year or 2 before even getting engaged. Next, wait on having kids. I have watched so many couples, meet, get engaged, marry and have kids all within 1 year. What time was spent getting to know each other? This is why every couple I know that rushed into having kids...are divorced now.

Take your time get to know your partner past the newnest of the relationship don't get in a hurry to marry.

Get to see and experience your future partner at his/her worst. Don't manipulate it, just let it happen. If you still have a heart to love him/her then dive in and don't look back. If you can not find the heart to love him/her you may want to apply the brakes and examine the relationship very closely.

Something work by themselves and somethings you have to put in effort to make it work and marriage is just one among them. if you dont like your job or car or house, you can change with without effecting your personality or emotions or kids but you just cant change your spouse. it is good to find out what is going wrong or what has gone wrong and try to rectify it and work to better it for the sake of your good future and kids (if the couple already have kids). In India, most of the marriages are arranged marriages and the secret for their success is that people try to make it work. i am not saying it is the best system but the couple has to put in every effort to make the marriage work. dont take anything for granted, respect your partner and support your partner, discuss and argue but know the limits, concerns and try to understand one another. Marriage is something that can made be stronger and stronger with more effort you put in than not. There can be no one else better in life than a loving, supporting and understanding partner – seek one and be one. all the best for a happy married life – i know i am in one.

Some things work by themselves and for some things you have to put in effort to make it work and marriage is one like that. if you dont like your job or car or house, you can change with without effecting your personality or emotions or kids but you just cant change your spouse. it is good to find out what is going wrong or what has gone wrong and try to rectify it and work to better it for the sake of your good future and kids (if the couple already have kids). In India, most of the marriages are arranged marriages and the secret for their success is that people try to make it work. i am not saying it is the best system but the couple has to put in every effort to make the marriage work. dont take anything for granted, respect your partner and support your partner, discuss and argue but know the limits, concerns and try to understand one another. Marriage is something that can made be stronger and stronger with more effort you put in than not. There can be no one else better in life than a loving, supporting and understanding partner – seek one and be one. Dont be afraid of marriage or starting a family, it is all worth it. all the best for a happy marriage and married life – i know i am in one.

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It doesn't benefit a man to get married. He has the potential to lose half his earnings to a woman who does not deserve them. A marriage contract doesn't guarantee her faithfulness. It only guarantees that the man will have to pay the woman.

You can get the EXACT same things without marriage. So there is really no reason for a man to get married. The only person who benefits are the women and children. Men should NEVER get married. They should date, have relationships, etc. But there is no need to sign up for a Feminist legal contract that guarantees you will lose your money on a bad business investment. And for those of you naive enough to believe marriage is about romance, wait until the divorce. Then you'll see just how "romantic" women and the legal system really are. If you don't believe me, do some homework and ask some of the men who have gotten divorced. They will tell you the exact same thing.